Christmas is coming...

This is not necessarily about Christmas or any other holidays but I think it is relevant to on-line long distance relationships. First of all, you need to enter the relationship with your eyes wide open and keep them that way. Honestly discuss what  limitations you are going to encounter. As many of us are older, we usually have priorities that affect when we can be together such as families come first. There is also the issue of finances most of the time. How often can we afford to see each other? Regular, frequent communication is very important. Even IRL, relationships suffer when there is a breakdown in communication. Don't play games, saying what you think the other wants to hear. Be prepared for misunderstandings to take place when you can only communicate with the written word! Discuss whatever misunderstandings you think have taken place...often difficult to do because you'd rather discuss pleasantries when you do communicate. Accept the fact that the other person is not always going to be available when you think you need them most and that they sometimes trivialize your needs, things you consider really important. Because of my career, I've been in many long distance relationships that just seemed to fizzle out because one or both didn't put out the effort to make it work. Most importantly to me is that the basis of the relationship is friendship which you will nurture regardless of the success or failure of the physical intimacy that you share.

This might be alittle late but I for one can speak about this subject from experience. As most of you know by now  i found my soul mate here in sexy ads. and i am so thankful for that. we have now gone through  3 Christmas's together.. and yes it has been hard to not be able to hold each other the way we want  but we have made exceptions and alway will find the time. even if its just a few minutes here and there. We take those minutes like they were gold. but it does work. and we are looking forward to making our new life together very very soon.. by the way my soulmate is Alnsu... he is a very special man. or course i am alittle biasd there but hey.. what can i say.. have a happy new year all..

kandie

Happy new year Kandie... you & Alnsu rock. Hope to see you in chat soon.

Hi All

 I dont post stuff in here normaly  but i wanted to Add to Kandies post.  happy New Year to you also Kiwi

Lond distance relationships are work, are they worth it?  they can be. Kandie and i this year will have been dating for 3 years in march, we've had our ups and downs, folks doubting us, some trying to come between us, but throughout it all we had two things as corner stones we built on, trust, and honesty, we talk about everything we share everything we dont keep things from each other,  I mean how can you build a relationship on anything but ? and expect it to be solid when theres hundreds of miles seperating you. If anything the average would be doomed to failure right from the start with anything less then absolute trust. espeically if you expect to enjoy the swinging life style too.  Long distance relationships require probably more work then being there in person as all you have for the most part are words wether spoken (thankgod for modern technology)  or typed. Ok yes theres some silver tongued folks out there that can certainly get one to believe and tell them what they want to hear, happens everyday and its a shame  and perhaps 1 in 25 clps that meet actualy manage to get through and touch each others soul (i Did )  i guess the bottom line is truth throughout    Thankyou kandie for being the song in my soul  Love you baby xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo